I could fit the description of your friend myself, although lately I have been writing less in the romance department. So this is going to be pretty much anecdotal, and I just hope it helps.
I identify as romantic (albeit also asexual) and I personally love the ideal of a good-fit romance. Any couple with complementing strengths who've got each other's backs no matter what? That's pretty much my gravy. So you'd find a lot of that in the things I watch, read and write.
When it comes to my writing, sometimes couples have sex, and sometimes they don't. Depends on the story, the couple, and the particular situation. If they do have sex, I tend to focus on whatever emotional connection they're sharing or write it as a natural extension of plot-based tension between them, because THAT'S what I want the sex scene to enhance: their relationship, and the story of it.
I don't know if these particulars are the case for your friend of course, but in a more general sense, does that help at all?
(I also quite like the "control over the strawberry" analogy sinneahtes gave)
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Date: 2012-11-30 01:14 am (UTC)I identify as romantic (albeit also asexual) and I personally love the ideal of a good-fit romance. Any couple with complementing strengths who've got each other's backs no matter what? That's pretty much my gravy. So you'd find a lot of that in the things I watch, read and write.
When it comes to my writing, sometimes couples have sex, and sometimes they don't. Depends on the story, the couple, and the particular situation. If they do have sex, I tend to focus on whatever emotional connection they're sharing or write it as a natural extension of plot-based tension between them, because THAT'S what I want the sex scene to enhance: their relationship, and the story of it.
I don't know if these particulars are the case for your friend of course, but in a more general sense, does that help at all?
(I also quite like the "control over the strawberry" analogy