So, what I think you're saying is that there can be a separation/division (not sure what the right word is--compartmentalization?) that exists between romance and sex, and so you can have/like/be interested in romance but not want to take it any further? Is that right, or am I misunderstanding? (I don't have that ability to compartmentalize, apparently, so I am not sure if I'm getting it or if I'm totally missing something important.)
I agree that writers write outside their personal experience, but can they write outside their own emotional experience? Or is the cultural kool-aid enough to counteract a lack of emotional experience here? Or is it more empathy? (But then, can empathy exist if the emotion you're empathizing with is totally alien to you?) I'm kinda thinking out loud here and kinda hoping for clarification, so take that as you will. Regardless, it's interesting to contemplate.
BTW, I really appreciate you providing the opportunity to ask this sort of stuff, because it's tough to grasp on your own--and tough to ask questions without feeling like you're either an idiot or being an unintentional ass because you just have no clue.
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Date: 2012-11-29 03:47 pm (UTC)I agree that writers write outside their personal experience, but can they write outside their own emotional experience? Or is the cultural kool-aid enough to counteract a lack of emotional experience here? Or is it more empathy? (But then, can empathy exist if the emotion you're empathizing with is totally alien to you?) I'm kinda thinking out loud here and kinda hoping for clarification, so take that as you will. Regardless, it's interesting to contemplate.
BTW, I really appreciate you providing the opportunity to ask this sort of stuff, because it's tough to grasp on your own--and tough to ask questions without feeling like you're either an idiot or being an unintentional ass because you just have no clue.